I am a child from a broken home with a gift and a burden. I cannot turn off a voice that is in hyper-analysis of deeper layers of social interaction. It allows me to learn about human nature and social dynamics but, it can become chaos if not tended to with a calm state of being.

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At school, I was the cool kid, socially adept and fit in almost everywhere I went. I liked to fight. I found myself around tough, threatening people fighting for social dominance. I was a formidable social character. Although, hitting the pillow at night with just my thoughts was where the internal dialogue was painful. I didn’t like the person I was and found it tiresome to upkeep my persona. I knew there was a better way to be, I just didn’t know how it looked. It wasn’t until I saw myself and affiliates do things that I believed to be unforgivingly reprehensible, that I knew if I went any further, would lead to the destruction of myself or others around me.  

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During emerging adulthood, I voluntarily put myself in a position to get my ego checked and to feel deep, uncontrolled exposure to social fear for the purpose of further knowing myself. I read books on emotion, ego, philosophy, psychology, youth, parenting, human nature, social behaviour, transactional analysis, leadership, and power. The exposure is absolute and definitive – no turning back. It is like being thrown in the middle of the ocean with no floatation device where I must accept the course and my fate ahead rather than questioning how I got there. This is key, because through this process I transitioned from ‘wondering’ who I am and where I need to be, to ‘knowing’ who I am and where I need to be.

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While the self-discovery was in play, I met the best woman and married her. I studied kung fu and qigong for 5 years until I broke my lower spine in a motorcycle accident. I worked FIFO – mining, and offshore oil and gas, where old and young, superior and inferior in status, constantly confided in me to seek answers on relationship dynamics, death of loved ones, depression, and lack of individual purpose. Everywhere I went, people found me to overcome ‘stuckness.’ Through my self-discovery and reading, I was able to say something meaningful, or simply listen attentively with maturity. Eventually, I listened to the calling and began studying psychology and counselling as a mature age student with children while juggling a 3/3 FIFO roster in offshore construction.

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I found myself with an effortless gift to see through the disguise of personas, speak to the inner child we all shield so diligently, and give perspective with empathy while remaining composed and emotionally stable to which grown men, tough, and twice my age found stable enough to be honest and vulnerable… My calling is to speak to people and be with people therapeutically to help them remember who they are and the power they hold within.